Wow…just look at that! Apparently it took a global pandemic for me to find my way back to my blog. A global pandemic and 2 months of adjusting. #silverlinings Something interesting has happened recently. Yes, of course I’m referring to the complete upending of life as we know it, but I’m also referring to something […]
Connected?
It’s a tricky world we live in. We are simultaneously more connected than ever to people around the world – some who we know and love and some who we will never know (and definitely don’t love) – and outrageously disconnected from people who live right next door to us. On the one hand I […]
Disclosure
I run a support group for couples that are dealing with cancer. In the support group, one of the topics that occasionally comes up is “How much do I share with friends, family, acquaintances and/or strangers?” It’s a hard question to answer, and not one that has only one answer. It might depend on your […]
You know what they say about good intentions…
I have a laundry list of good intentions right now, to be perfectly honest. And maybe as a therapist I’m not supposed to admit to the general public that I don’t always do well to follow through on my good intentions, but there it is. Many of these good intentions have fallen by the wayside […]
Summertime Awesomeness?
Have you noticed? I’ve been MIA. We’ve transitioned to summer time, and the hours have been slipping through my fingers. The transition from school to summer is always somewhat of a jolt (I have school-aged kids, so while they are the ones making the real transition, it definitely impacts us parents too), as we simultaneously […]
Should should should should should….
This particular blog is really aimed more at all the perfectionists out there, although I have a feeling it will apply to others as well. “Should.” I should exercise more. I should cook healthy food for my family. I should be farther than I am in my career. I should recover more quickly. I should […]
Why do we edit our own stories?
Why do we edit our own stories…in therapy? Yes, I’ve been there. I’ve sat on the therapy couch and shared a carefully curated selection of my life story. I’ve taken my time getting to the parts that feel the most shameful, ugly, embarrassing or secretive. I have edited my own life, even though I know […]
CancerCon 2019!
True confessions: I meant to post this last week before going to CancerCon, but then…well, life. And so this post is going to be a combination of looking forward and looking back. If I had posted pre-CancerCon: Apparently to the uninitiated, “CancerCon” is a really strange name for a conference…a name that might hit a nerve, […]
Couples Counseling Part 4: Why premarital counseling is a great idea.
I was having a conversation with someone the other day (that had absolutely nothing to do with couples or counseling) when she said something that lit up like a neon sign in my brain. She was in the middle of working on a dissertation for her PhD in which she was looking at what happens […]
What not to say to your friend with cancer
You know what they say about good intentions, right? I think it’s fair to say that people generally have very good intentions when they make encouraging (or what they think to be encouraging) statements to friends, family and acquaintances who are dealing with cancer. Unfortunately, even the best of intentions can end up sounding disingenuous, […]